DARRICK WHITFIELD: A Marriage that was built to last


“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
From the beginning of time, God made it clear that it is not good for His people to be alone (Gen. 2:18). God designed us to cooperate.
Throughout the Scriptures He speaks of His people as a community that accomplishes more together than separately. God did not create us as isolated individuals, each seeking to achieve our own goals. Rather, the success of our endeavors depends upon our interdependence. This is why He established the church and released His Holy Spirit to empower the community of believers to spread the gospel. We are to be a kingdom of priests (1 Pet. 2:9).
I read a story this past week about a neighborhood outside of Chicago. It was a nice, well kept, neighborhood – for a couple of years. But before too long, the roads began to crack and houses began to collapse. They called a team of inspectors in and the inspectors discovered that the entire neighborhood had been built on a garbage dump. The entire neighborhood was collapsing because it wasn’t built on a solid foundation.
In our text, the first need of man mentioned was his need of a companion. God did not give Adam another man for a companion but a woman. Adam had work to do and the tasks were greater than he alone could do, therefore, he needed assistance. So God gave him a woman to be his “help meet.”
Woman was made from the rib not the head (to be over man) or the foot (to be trampled on by man). But she was made from the rib to be loved and honored by man.
“Husbands, love your wives” (Colossians 3:19).
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, as being heirs together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7).
If you were honest and would take your marriage and lay it alongside God’s marriage policy, would your marriage stand as one that was made in paradise?
Or, would you have to say that there is some “leaving and cleaving” that needs to take place in your relationship?
Is there some activity or pursuit that is coming between you and your spouse? Do you feel that you are one flesh ? What I am asking is that husbands and wives should take a long hard look at their relationships and then respond together, before the Lord and allow Him to have His way in your marriage.
Maybe you are married to an unbeliever, why not bring them to Jesus and talk to Him about that need?
Maybe the sizzle has begun to fizzle. Why not come before the Lord and ask Him to rekindle the flames that once burned so passionately. Bring your marriage to Jesus and let Him fix it if it is broken, let Him strengthen it if it is weak and let Him make it even better if it is already good.
Maybe your’e not even married, but you are concerned about the future and the person you will marry. Why not bring that need to the Lord? Singles, are there areas of your life that need to be brought under the Lord’s control? Please understand that everyone may not be married but God has a plan for everyone and part of that plan includes salvation, that is a constant for everyone.

Rev. Darrick Whitfield is pastor of Shady Grove M.B. Church, McCondy. His column is published regularly in the Chickasaw Journal.


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