Victims of rape often hear myths that hold them responsible for the rapist’s actions:
– “You were drinking, so it’s your fault.” Some rapists serve double shots of alcohol in their date’s beverages without the victim’s permission or knowledge. Even your deliberate drinking does not mean you have given someone the right of sexual assault.
– “You wouldn’t have been raped if you hadn’t gotten a car ride from him.” Accepting a lift doesn’t give the attacker permission to sexually assault you.
– “Look at how sexy you were dressed. What did you expect would happen?” People dress in clothing that suits their tastes. Rape can happen to anyone no matter what he or she is wearing.
– “You’ve been leading him on, teasing him. You asked for it!” Flirting is a natural part of dating; rape is not.
– “He spent a lot of money taking you to dinner and out on a nice date. You owed him something in return.” Dating is not a business deal. Sex is not something you have sold. A decision for sexual contact should be mutual.
Sources: The pamphlet “Got a Date Tonight?” from Sexual Assault Services of Crow Wing County, Brainerd, Minn.; various other sources.